Once upon a time, there lived a monster. He put his life into a parrot. The monster was invincible unless you knew the key, his life was in the parrot. Then you needn’t kill the monster, you only had to kill the parrot. As the parrot was killed, the monster died.’
This story is significant because we all put our lives, pride, honor and shame into something else.
What struck me the most in Satyamev Jayate’s episode ‘When Masculinity Harms Men’, was activist Ms.Kamla Bhasin’s statement- http://youtu.be/vuo4wbREE4U?t=51m51s.
“My honor does not lie in my vagina.”
- “Our dog defines our status in the society.” Hence, we won’t adopt a street dog.
- “Our family’s honor lies in our children’s career choices.” Hence, the fear of failure that children often face.
- “Our family’s honor lies in our gender identities.” Hence, the opposition to LGBT rights.
- “Our caste is what makes us superior to others.” Hence, we wont accept an inter caste marriage.
- “My pride lies in looking ‘normal’.” Hence, I wont see a psychotherapist.
- “My pride lies in looking good.” Hence, I cannot be myself around people.
It also extends to,
- “Yes, I want to look pretty. My confidence lies in looking fair. Yes, I will buy this cream for a clean, fair & spotless skin.“
- “Yes, I want to be rich & powerful. This scheme promises me that. I will go for it.”
- “Yes, I want to look healthy. Advertisements say this food supplement will make me look muscular. I will buy this.”
- “I always want to be right. If someone is disproving my argument, I will say things that will make him look bad.”
Check out George Carlin’s stand up comedy on Pride – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-OnWnwwxNPA
The root of any system is the concept of honor, pride & shame that it revolves around. Its time we redefined ours.